Tradition One - Groups

Following the questions in Paths to Recovery:

1.  How can I apply this tradition to my everyday life?  I can think of a couple instances where I can use this now:  my family and my hiking group.  The things I want to remember to keep in mind are letting go of self will and that all of us must have a voice in order for unity to exist.  No-one's voice is more or less important than others.  I have the responsibility to listen, to share, and to accept.  The burden of control is lifted off of my shoulders.  Other people deserve to make their own decisions and to be given the respect I desire for myself.  Everyone needs to pitch in and do his/her share.  Unity means that we are working toward a common goal.  I have often taken on the overwhelming share of the burden - to the point of inducing a panic attack and often having a spinning head.  Others need to pitch in or live with the consequence of things not getting done. 
**Question:  What are good consequences to those who don't pitch in?

2.  How do I use this Tradition in my meeting?  I listen to, share, and accept others.  I haven't been part of a group inventory; sharing my actual opinion on something and coming to a decision might be scary at meetings because I don't really feel I know enough yet to stand up for my opinion.  I didn't share why I didn't like the Wed. group.  I kind of wish I had as I think they might have appreciated the feedback; I just didn't want to hurt any feelings when I don't know them/not invested in their group.  It would be different with my home group.

3.  How does this Tradition give me the right to offer my opinion?  How can I do this without dominating or having to win?  Everyone's opinion is valued and given equal weight.  We just agree to discuss more later if we can't come to a mutually agreeable solution and think about it and eventually work it out to everyone's satisfaction.