Contract With Kiku

As an adult member of a household, you would be expected to contribute your share to the finances and chores of the house.  These are some expectations of you as a responsible adult.

1.  Gas/Food Money:  Plan/set aside a reasonable amount each week.  That means you must schedule appointments same time/date as other things in that area.  The back and forth is hard on the car; gas is super expensive.  Your car needs maintenance.  Food:  put items on the grocery list - eat before you go - lots of leftovers or we can get easy things to take with you - still cheaper than your eating out constantly.  We were already in serious debt; it's going to get worse with cutbacks at my job starting the end of August.  Please only buy what you think you will eat.  You have been buying expensive items; then letting them rot.  I think one expensive item per shopping plus buy less each time to avoid wasting.  Some meetings can be nearby.

Reasonable consequence:  less money for shopping following time; less gas money

2.  Chores:  Please do at least one chore per day - max. 30 minutes.  This would also be expected at a sober house.  At the very least, rinse your dishes and put them in the dishwasher; add your items to the grocery list; keep your bathroom clean; vacuum your room weekly as there is a resurgence in bed bugs.  They say the best way to combat that is to vacuum regularly.  IF you aren't working when I return to work, I think a fair contribution as a fellow adult member of this house is for you to cook and clean.  It wouldn't take more than a couple hours out of your day; yet you would save us lots of stress.  It would be a great way to pull your own weight.

Consequence:  loss of some item we pay for

3.  Continue to advise other members of your schedule and anticipate your needs for co-pays or other financial necessities.  Planning ahead and telling others is a courtesy so that events are not double booked.

Consequence:  No-one will drop their plans for you or come up with the money unless it is a true emergency.

4.  Relationship Building/Communication:  We would like to have a healthy relationship with you.  We can negotiate the terms/boundaries such as mom needs to focus and listen or not talk to others except Al-Anon members, etc.  Please think of some not so expensive activities we could share.  Also, relationships/intimacy relies on the effort of all parties involved.  It's not a one way street with us making all the effort to open conversations/build a relationship only to meet the wall.  We would like to follow the rules established for communication based on the training and handouts.  Perhaps you could start by spending five minutes in our presence.

5.  Begin looking for a job.  Once you get a job, we expect you will pay for your car's expenses and save for the future.  We also would expect you to continue with some household chores such as cooking and cleaning.  Temp agencies could be your best bet.  The UW has one.  Once you get some good referrals, it is easier to get a permanent job plus many people who hire temps are just looking to see how someone is; then often make a job offer.  You cannot expect a great job without skills, references, or specific career training.

6.  Renegotiate/Review Contract:  Let's plan to review this contract on a monthly basis.

Note:  Natural consequences of poor choices will occur.  We will no longer act to prevent any of those.  The most extreme consequence of being asked to leave our house will only occur if you continually ignore our expectations and lie or steal from us.

Name:______________________________   Date:_____________________________

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