1. Practice new styles of communication as per Residence XII packet - I statements of feelings; direct, short statements of what you would like to see; fair fighting; come to compromise; respect others' boundaries and if it's not a good time to talk; then set a time AND stick to that time. It's ok to say you need a time out during a discussion. Do not discuss when upset.
2. Boundary Issues: Need to say no and mean it so no threats. Keisuke and Kiku decide fair consequences for not doing chores/budget issues; we approve or discuss further. There are boundaries K & K need to implement for mom and Glen also - two way street here. Big boundary for parents: budget - things are tight around here - we all need to contribute to living within our means. Each week outline what your needs are. Work on decent driving records to reduce insurance costs.
3. Chores: Everyone in a home needs to contribute to the running of the home. Glen and Kari are the ones bringing in the financial contribution so seems fair for us to come home to a tidy house not a huge mess. You two can contribute by doing the chores - mowing, cleaning, cooking, your own laundry, tidy up after yourselves every time you make a mess.
4. Discuss issues directly with the person - no middlemen; no complaining behind backs. Agree to finish discussing later if no solution has appeared.
Possible Consequences: (Have to be agreed upon.)
1. Less money for gas/entertainment if not sticking to the budget or helping around the house.
2. Push to get a job every summer/time off to help us out if not doing other things that help.
3. Check in keys with us daily/check out only if must go somewhere like a medical appointment.
4. No time allowed for entertainment.
5. Phone gets shut off to save money.
6. Sell expensive items to repay us.
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