Tradition Three Questions from Pathways

1.  Do I give each newcomer a warm and loving welcome?  I have to remind myself now and then, but I make an effort to direct comments to that person.

2.  Do I welcome all who attend our meetings even if they are different from me?  How can my group be more welcoming of those who are different from us?  Yes.  I think our group is welcoming.  Most of us tend to be middle aged women so others may decide our group is not for them, but we are welcoming.

3.  Do I treat each member and potential member with unconditional love? Yes.

4.  How does my group encourage all members to share?  Do I encourage all members to share?  We ask the new people if they want to share.  We specifically have it in our opening and closing about inviting to share.  We try to limit sharing time so all can participate who want to.

5.  How can my group welcome members of other programs and maintain our Al-Anon focus?  What can I do to make them welcome?  We don't normally discuss other programs.  Our opening says to keep focus on Al-Anon.  However, some will discuss their personal philosophies, etc. in passing.  If they are new, we allow more latitude.

6.  Have I alienated anyone that might have needed Al-Anon because I thought another meeting might be better for them?  No.  However, one member told me that my husband wasn't really welcome there and suggested meetings with more men/couples.  I found that extremely offputting!

7.  How can I help my group remain open to new ideas while assuring that we not affiliate with any other cause or group?  I think it is ok to discuss other ideas with sponsors and on phone calls, but the meetings need to focus on CAL, Al-Anon ideas.

8.  Do I leave my other affiliations and interests outside the doors of Al-Anon?  Yes.

9.  Am I being understanding and encouraging?  I believe so.  I listen well and nod my head and smile.

10.  How can I treat others with acceptance, tolerance, and love?  I can be courteous no matter what I think.  I can be helpful and kind.  I wish to be a blessing to others.

11.  Am I accepting myself and others as we are?  How?  Better with others than with myself.  I still tend to be hard on myself - feel I'm not measuring up.  Also on my hubby but not so much with others.

12.  How can I apply Tradition Three to other areas of my life?  My hiking group, my relationships  I cannot be all things to all people all the time - I have to remember that.