1. How am I taking responsibility for my actions and thoughts? Is my group taking responsibility for its actions and thoughts? How? I am taking responsibility. I make the choice to react and then I need to face the consequences. I am learning to take more time to think and reason out actions with others. I am learning to do nothing until I have a clear message where God wants me to go. My group does a group conscious and business meetings to talk about how some actions affect everyone. I am learning to make amends for the actions and not to blame others.
2. How am I allowing others the freedom to take responsibility for their own actions and thoughts? I am working hard to mind my own business and not make judgments or try to fix others. I am getting out of the way of the consequences of those actions even when it hurts to watch.
3. Am I accepting the consequences of my actions gracefully? Not always, but I am improving. Am I allowing others the same opportunity? Yes, and I am working not to complain about it.
4. Am I self-serving and selfish in the name of autonomy, or am I truly self-caring, asking for my HP's guidance? I think I tend to be self centered still, but I am working on being kind and of service even when it means I have to give up some time. I am trying hard to submit to my HP's will and guidance as my will hasn't worked out too well for me up to now!
5. How does my group consider the impatc of its decisions on Al-Anon, Alateen as a whole? Lone Members, inmates, groups, newcomers, long timers? The group discusses whether an action meets the expectations of Al-Anon etc. and looks at possible impacts on all groups. There is a group conscious and other shorter meetings and voting on different items plus some issues are taking up the ladder to see what the response is.
6. What were my feelings as a new member? Did I feel welcomed? Can I share my thoughts with my group? Others? I was nervous, not sure it would help but at the bottom and willing to try anything. I felt welcomed. I have a hard time breaking in socially at first, but someone came over to talk. I felt more welcomed by Thurs than by Wed. Wed smokers and people allowed to take over and not talk recovery but just complaints turned me off. I could share. It's just a bit hard to remember now. My brain gets so fuzzy.
7. Do I remember Al-Anon's primary purpose in my service activities? Yes. How does this affect my actions? I try to put myself out there more to be welcoming rather than hiding behind shyness. If I feel a personal response to someone, I attempt to reach out.
8. Am I dogmatic in my reasoning, or am I flexible in the interpretation of the suggested guidelines? How can I be more flexible? I don't feel all that qualified yet to comment on guidelines. I leave this to the long term members unless I truly feel I have something I understand well enough for me to comment. I think I would be flexible, but sometimes I get stuck on something and can't let it go. It's hard for me to say now.
9. When visiting a new group, do I feel irritated if it's not just like my home group? No. I have visited 3 other groups recently and still found it helpful. I would like them to start later so I can get there, but it's not up to me. I would like them to last longer, but again it is not my place to control. What can I learn from visiting other groups? That Al-Anon priniciples are at work everywhere so I can find help and support even if just dropping in. Do I want to straighten out a group? No, I did not have that response. I was grateful there was a group to visit.
10. In my personal life, how can I apply this Tradition to my family? Are we autonomous? Do our actions affect other families? Our communities? I believe few of our actions affect in a big way except perhaps trying to converse energy and be clean. We do need to think about how our actions affect others when we make decisions.
11. Tradition four asks us to be obedient to the unenforceable. What does this mean to me? It means that I/we do the right thing even though no one is around to watch us or make us do that.
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